I just want to bury my head in the sand. My brain injury can be overwhelming and depressing, but COVID-19 is something completely different. I’ve been jumpy, on edge, and worried about the people I love. And the constant updates just serve to exacerbate the stress.
A month or so ago I booked a flight for this past weekend to see my 3-year-old granddaughter in Miami. As I got closer to departure, just thinking about the airport and flying, much less the subway bus, and taxi, made my hair stand on end. But I was not about to cancel the trip; I hadn’t seen my baby in months
On Friday I set out for the airport—baby wipes in hand (who knew they don’t work for COVID-19?), onto the subway (with gloves), then a bus (uh-oh, swiped my MetroCard with bare hands), and eventually onto the plane. Once buckled in I tried my best to put doomsday out of my head.
Hours later I was on my way to pick up my granddaughter at school with her mom. By then, my most pressing concern was if she’d recognize me. I wasn’t disappointed—the moment we arrived she ran to me then back to her friend and said, “my grandma’s here!” I swept her up in my arms, her mom took photos, and I was set for the weekend.
Very quickly I learned her new favorite word (NO!) but crankiness comes and goes when you’re three. After a nap the fun began. She’s a hoot—made me laugh, prance, crawl like a caterpillar and dance like a butterfly. Between hugs, reading books (me to her and vice versa), and putting my back at risk by swinging her around, I was happy and relaxed.
On my way home from JFK I started to feel the weight settling back in, and by the time I got there I felt overwhelmed and on edge…again.
But I was amazed that for a few days the anxiety took a back seat as if I was living in an alternate world. Surrounded by love and laughter I was completely (as they say) in the moment without even trying. I’d unintentionally found a way to take a break from the bad news. Coronavirus hadn’t gone away, instead I’d turned away from it, engrossed by what was important and good in life. I never thought I could do that, and you may feel the same.
We are not powerless. Although we can’t change the world, we can change how we face the world, managing our fears by immersing ourselves in what we love—family, art, music, books, a walk in the park, or setting a challenge that demands focus, attention, and creativity.
Avoiding stress has been proven to strengthen your immune system and mental well-being. That’s how the body protects itself. So we should take the bombardment of information hitting us with a grain of salt. As Dr. Mike Ryan, head of the World Health Organization Health Emergencies Program said, “We need a vaccine against misinformation.”
This outbreak is not just a pandemic, but an infodemic.* Just turn off the TV, skip the non-stop emails (how do you make your own Purell?), and talk to your friends about anything but COVID-19. It is possible to hit the pause button. Try it.
- Fake Facts Are Flying About Coronavirus. Now There’s a Plan to Debunk Them from National Public Radio (Listening time, 3:41 or read the story). “An ‘infodemic’ [is] an overwhelming amount of information on social media and websites. Some of it’s accurate. And some is downright untrue.” – World Health Organization (see the WHO site.)
Bravo! Great post Laurie! This is so critical to keep ones sanity in these crazy times
it’s so nice that you did got to enjoy your grand baby, what a treat.
“The WHO notes, “this outbreak is not just a pandemic, but an infodemic”* so turn off the TV,” Great advice.
We are advised to isolate ourselves from possible contagions, and from the hysterics fostered by TV.. Now, like so many, with a lot of spare time, it’s best not to fill that time with worry. We are in unexpected circumstances, which also presents unexpected opportunities. We can attempt to be productive. Like, keeping in mind, the many home projects we planned to do, some other time. Well, that time could be now.
We are folks, in the brain injury community, have learned to make the best of situations, and changes. We know, “it is what it is,” so well. And Laurie, you teach and remind us of our ability to adapt, and we do adapt, so very well.
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yes, Rendy, we are strong but strongest as a community together. I worry that “social distancing” can be very dangerious emotionally and health-wise for so many people living with brain injury. BI so often isolates people from the rest of the usual functioning world, and it is only by great effort (as we know only ltoo well) that a group can be slowly grown to a community of empathic people from all walks of life who understand (to a degree) what each of use is living with because our experiences overlap in so many ways.
not having those regular group meetings with people who have become you good buddies is a big loss. I really want to find a way to create a community for those who can get online so we can recreate (virtually) some of what we’ve lost. Our psychological and even physical health needs it.
Thank you always for your well-thought out comments and your smart, incisive point of view.
Hi, Laurie …
I appreciate your posts, this one in particular, and often think of my dear childhood girlfriend, Gloria, and her family. My best to the rest of you, with wishes for the continuing safety and good health of all!
Much Love …
thank you, Amy. It’s so good to hear from you. I”ve been meaning to get in touch (no, really, I mean it) for so long and then somehow get distracted and haven’t done it. I will call. email me if you’re awake and want to say hi now – I’m going to sleep shortly.
I am so happy that you went to see your grandbaby. Good for you!! I hope that you are staying safe.
With much love,